Yesterday, Alicia Keys revealed a new song from her still-untitled follow-up to 2009′s The Element Of Freedom, showing a decidedly upbeat side that we rarely see from the queen of sad piano ballads. “New Day” is produced by her husband Swizz Beats, and it’s a reflection of Keys’ new-found positive outlook on life.

So, you’re going through a break-up. It’s likely that you are too caught up in trying to mend your heart and are oblivious to the fact that there are three stages of a breakup. You should also beg your ears and your pride for forgiveness because you’ve likely subjected yourself to some questionable pop music. Carrie Underwood, Adele, Taylor Swift — these are all musical staples of a rough split. Let’s break down the stages of a breakup and try and understand why we listen to the songs we do when our hearts are broken.